some blogs really address and speak to the heart of the matter. this particular post really hits home for me. ~pescado
The Conversation Continued ...
From Femdom 101's Blog By Mistress Kathy:
Monday, Jan. 12th, 2015
One of the wonderful things about having grown children is the opportunity to talk with them on an adult basis. As a mom the challenge is to be helpful rather than intrusive. Often times I will find myself walking a fine line as Becky and I talk about issues with her family. It is one thing to ask about what the children might want for Christmas. It is quite another thing to suggest that her husband might have some of the same submissive needs as that of her father.
Someone asked if it easy for women to tell if a man is submissive. Masculine submission is not something you can just look at and make a determination.. In my opinion you really need to get to know a person to see how they react to challenges and controversy. For example a truly submissive man will almost always give in when his opinion is challenged. This is especially true when his opinion is challenged by a female. The submissive man is quick to say that I take no offense by what you told me as I'm Hers did on the challenge of his use of the bitch word. And yes, I do love to be around men like him and John who are among those special angles who live to please.
Toward the end of that conversation with Becky I mentioned to her that her husband had some of the same submissive characteristics as her father. She was surprised to hear me say this. 'What do you mean', she asked. At that moment we were sipping wine and our glasses were on the empty side.
I suggested to her that she call David in form the kitchen so that he could refill our glasses. 'Why should I do that,' she asked 'the bottle is right here'. I laughed a little, and told her it is an experiment.
'Call him in, ask him sweetly to refill the glasses, and then send him back to the kitchen' I suggested to her. Becky gave me a strange look, but she did call him in response to my request.
When called David quickly came in form the kitchen where he and John had been working. 'Honey, refill our glasses please' she said to him with a sweet smile. David looked a little confused as the bottle sat on the table within easy reach of Becky's hand. David said sure and did as requested. Becky then said something like thank you honey while sending him back to the kitchen. David's only response was something like 'do you need anything else'. 'No' Becky responded 'you are excused'. David could not hide the smile on his face as he said thank you to her.
That little episode with the wine bottle was meant to give Becky a lesson in what is commonly referred to as male management. Femdom is not really about whips and chains. Most often it is about the little things such as allowing a man the privilege of serving. Learning to be a mistress is often about learning to enjoy men as loving submissive beings who want little more in life than serving a mistress. For some reason society seems to classify submissive men as of less value than the so called alpha males. Yet, in my estimation it is the submissive husband who makes being a woman so very special. Not all men are submissive, but those few who want to please with their desire for service are truly special. They are the keepers. Just as I am lucky to have my baby, Katie is fortunate to have found her jewel.
Someone asked if it easy for women to tell if a man is submissive. Masculine submission is not something you can just look at and make a determination.. In my opinion you really need to get to know a person to see how they react to challenges and controversy. For example a truly submissive man will almost always give in when his opinion is challenged. This is especially true when his opinion is challenged by a female. The submissive man is quick to say that I take no offense by what you told me as I'm Hers did on the challenge of his use of the bitch word. And yes, I do love to be around men like him and John who are among those special angles who live to please.
Toward the end of that conversation with Becky I mentioned to her that her husband had some of the same submissive characteristics as her father. She was surprised to hear me say this. 'What do you mean', she asked. At that moment we were sipping wine and our glasses were on the empty side.
I suggested to her that she call David in form the kitchen so that he could refill our glasses. 'Why should I do that,' she asked 'the bottle is right here'. I laughed a little, and told her it is an experiment.
'Call him in, ask him sweetly to refill the glasses, and then send him back to the kitchen' I suggested to her. Becky gave me a strange look, but she did call him in response to my request.
When called David quickly came in form the kitchen where he and John had been working. 'Honey, refill our glasses please' she said to him with a sweet smile. David looked a little confused as the bottle sat on the table within easy reach of Becky's hand. David said sure and did as requested. Becky then said something like thank you honey while sending him back to the kitchen. David's only response was something like 'do you need anything else'. 'No' Becky responded 'you are excused'. David could not hide the smile on his face as he said thank you to her.
That little episode with the wine bottle was meant to give Becky a lesson in what is commonly referred to as male management. Femdom is not really about whips and chains. Most often it is about the little things such as allowing a man the privilege of serving. Learning to be a mistress is often about learning to enjoy men as loving submissive beings who want little more in life than serving a mistress. For some reason society seems to classify submissive men as of less value than the so called alpha males. Yet, in my estimation it is the submissive husband who makes being a woman so very special. Not all men are submissive, but those few who want to please with their desire for service are truly special. They are the keepers. Just as I am lucky to have my baby, Katie is fortunate to have found her jewel.
Love, Mistress
