A Re-Post from Femdom 101 "Redefining Whom W/we Are"

***Blog Re-Post from "Femdom 101" by Mistress Kathy, Fri. June 14, 2013***
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i have been reading this blog for quite sometime now, and it really speaks to me as a submissive male who yearns for and needs the control and love of a Dominant Female. this is not about some bdsm fantasy or sexual inuendo. this speaks specifically about transitioning gender roles, lifestyle changes and social progression. it is what is happening today, right now.

Redefining Whom We Are

By now everyone who follows this blog knows that my daughter Becky is married and lives in Atlanta. Well, like a lot of other young people she and her husband live in a suburb of Atlanta.
In the back yard she has a garden and a patio table where we sill sometimes sit when the weather allows. In many ways we are both out side people yet resent the heat.

From what I had understood Becky was up for a promotion at work. It would mean more money, but more responsibilities. It also meant for the first time in her career she would have supervisory responsibility over men as well as women. Although the job was an advancement, she was not really sure it was something she wanted. It would mean more time at the office as well as more time traveling.

Talking about the job and its requirements made me think back to what the world was like when I graduated from college. For the most part the only jobs open to women were teachers, nurses, and secretaries. There was no career path for women other than having a baby and staying home. There was no such thing as having a man work under the supervision of a female. If so, and anyone knew about it, he would have been teased to no end.

Becky entered the job world at a time when employers were looking for women. Aside from what she hears from mom and sees on shows like Mad Men she has no practical understanding of what is was to be a working woman in the 50s, 60s, or early 70s. I mentioned to her that we are all in the process of redefining our selves. Women are now doing jobs that once were only held by men, and men are doing some jobs that were formally done by women. In a way this is good in that it allows more people the flexibility to do what they want instead of what society forces them to do.

The changes, I reminded her are not only about what is happening at work, but also in home. Becky is very aware of the relationship her father and I have. From time to time she has been given limited supervisory authority over her father. This had occurred for a time last year when John visited by himself. From the start I made it clear to John that in my absence, in Becky's home, she is the boss. John had been in the Atlanta area on business, and I was working. Before the visit I asked John if he could accept the the that in her home Becky is mistress, and is to be obeyed. Although Becky does not really act like a mistress, John is proud of the limited authority she has learned to exercise over her husband. The incident with the movie is just one little example, but the important thing for both Becky and John is to understand that in her home the relationship is different.

In a way we are all redefining the traditional relationships. With women becoming managers, and airline pilots, and whatever, they are redefining how they interact with the world. It is the same for men. It is the same for a father and daughter. Becky has grown up. She is no longer the little college girl. In our world-where men are expected to do as they are told-John understands that the traditional relationship with his daughter has been redefined.

As Becky and I were taking our time talking, sipping coffee her husband came out from the kitchen to offer us a refill. When we finished he picked up the cups, and put them away. This is not about BDSM, whipping a man, or anything like that. This type of femdom is simply about allowing a man who enjoys serving to serve, and about a wife learning the pleasure of having a husband tend to her. In my opinion allowing a husband with submissive needs to perform simple task is really a good first step forward a femdom relationship. If gives both parties a chance to consider if this is really something both of them want.


As Becky's husband picked up the coffee cups she very casually told her husband that when he finished in the kitchen he was to make the bed and start a load of cottons before leaving for work. 'Yes, of course' he answered, 'but what about the ironing you left out'. he replied. 'You can do that later she replied'. Yes, even if it not called femdom or female led, there are families where day in day out women are redefining the traditional role of homemaker and breadwinner. Much of this is good. It allows for both men and for women the freedom to be whom they want to be.

From what I have heard from men it is important for a wife to want her man's service. It is important that she acknowledges to him that he is in fact her servant. It takes some time for a woman to understand all of this. The male brain can be very confusing. From what I have found most of the web sites dealing with aspects of FLRs are trash that cater to male fantasies. They do more harm to the life style than good.

Love you all for reading. Please remember that femdom is not about subjugating men to roles in life that they don't want. It is about giving each of us, me and women, the freedom to be the person we were meant to be. This is often a learning experience. Becky is growing as a leader in her home as well as in her occupation. Her husband is learning to accept his wife's leadership in matters of every day living. Does she whip her husband? No, well not at least as far as I know. Does she give him instructions and simple household duties to perform. Yes, and along the way her husband is learning obedience and the fine art of service to a woman.

Kathy